################################################################################ START OF FILE: 2024-01-30 - What do you mean by 0067 with Faith Ledford and a sprinkle of Nathaniel Cross - Nathaniel.txt ################################################################################ SERMON DETAILS ======================================== Date: 2024-01-30 Title: "What do you mean by" #0067 with Faith Ledford and a sprinkle of Nathaniel Cross Speaker: Nathaniel Church: What Do You Mean By Type: Church Service Duration: 1h 52m Language: English URL: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bt0Gvb-h1Dg ======================================== TRANSCRIPT ======================================== number 67 where we go through you know are you ready for marriage are you not what are the favorite books in the Bible and what characters just Faith leadford B relate to so welcome welcome ask hey guys how's it going let me pin this comment here and we'll start hello everybody hope everybody's having a great Tuesday I'm having a great Tuesday Faith JP Jewels Anonymous blessed Mom hello Isaac Phillips maybe next time man I find it funny that request to be in your video you what I said I find it funny that I have to request to be in your live like oh let me be in it yeah how the uh that's how it works everybody sorry I look awful I just got well I got off work around 5 but then we started dinner and then we cleaned up and I was like so okay great so how was how was your Tuesday long um today I worked till five and I worked in drive-thru and it was just long it was a good day it was just long and some of the customers were like extra demanding today what do you think one guy just drive off and if I was actually outside at the time and driveth through 2 where uh outside where I usually am I would have got ran over no doubt okay what exactly is it that you do um I work at a daros it's a restaurant it's a fast food Eden restaurant and I work in drive-thru I work in the the back Drive I work in the front and back drive-thru I work on cash um I work on tablet I do a little bit of everything there but yeah in there six months very nice okay and we'll get into the questions okay father thank you for this day thank you for all that you've given us we ask that you please be with us as we do this Live help it to be a glory to you and edifying for the people we ask all the name of the Lord Jesus Christ amen okay so last live we talked a lot about a bunch of different stuff we have couple of not L questions that came in and we'll go through those those and we then after that we'll go over to the um all right main stuff pull this up if I can just set my set my phone up like this probably maybe all right having to make my own little trip okay that's not gonna work I have a stand we you like it all this is like very off top kind of off topic look how beautiful this by the way it's very pretty your uh set up like Echo it's not supposed to Echo okay it's not echoing anymore when you grabbed it so seriously don't want to be able to I don't want to have to hold it the whole time there you go that's that work that work because it's echoing is it like set up somewhere where the speaker like pours noise into like a a cylinder okay I'll hold it okay so what is one Bible verse that you recall often H oh my goodness um see I know the Bible verses I'm just very bad at you don't have to say what the bub is just the words inside of it um one thing I think about often is is when the timing when the timing is right I the Lord will make it happen and also you mean like Ecclesiastes what's that Ecclesiastes 3 yeah I think so I have my Bible with me right now so I'm just trying to my hand it's Ecclesiastes chapter 3 yeah okay so wh why why that scripture um because I lot I have a lot of hopes and dreams and um I don't know it's it's the kind of verse that gives me hope which verse specifically do you have the scripture do you have the chapter in front of you no that's what I saying I'm doing with one a hand so just be patient also this is a brand new Bible and it's hard to like the pages like paper thin very very very thin okay I hate doing this with one hand i' help I put it up if I didn't if it didn't Echo so bad don't rush me think of think some other questions you want to ask me while I do this okay uh why do you like hot sauce so much um my mom does so I think I kind of picked that up from her cool I just how long is it take to pull up Ecclesiastes three in a paper Bible shut up go away just go away it shouldn't take that long you're 30 years old just be patient I think she froze she's offended it's buffering now it load in a minute here oh more more questions okay I'll be right back are you straight Ecclesiastes or did I hear you wrong Ecclesiastes chapter 3 okay your favorite scripture David I have many um my favorite scripture all time is uh is when Judas is betraying Jesus and and Jesus and he kisses Jesus on the cheek and Jesus says friend wherefore art thou come and so I do my best in my life to compare any way that I treat anybody that doesn't deserve being treated nicely to how Jesus cre treated Judas looking at literally Satan incarnate and calling him friend when he's going through the worst most atrocious betrayal of all time and says friend wherefore art thou come or friend what are you doing here and that is my favorite scripture of all time oh this one's good too Ecclesiastes uh chapter 3 verse 11 he hath made everything beautiful in his time also he has set the world in their heart so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end I always like that I'm just like I said I'm still like new to reading the Bible every day but I'm still I'm still learning so good take it easy on me any more questions sure um I'm sure you love Jeremiah 2911 just like everyone else uh the wers that what is that one it's I know my thoughts towards you thought it thoughts of good and not of evil to give you an expected end what B character do you relate to the most um I've thought about this myself and I've also asked my family and they've all said Ruth because she was determined she was hardworking she was loyal um and she waited patiently okay so those are all very high level and very good things that almost anyone could say that's me but specifically to you how is she spefically related to you in an answer that you can't repli something that's just faith not something that 10,000 other girls could say too but just faith and I know you which is why I know you have an answer for this u i mean you're not wrong well I mean you could lay it out you got Ruth she has to leave which she was in before and she's all in where you die I will die there will I be buried your people will be my people your God my God and then she goes according to the instruction of her mother to find a husband so there's a a few similarities I'd say so why is Ruth the one that everyone thinks you're you're the uh closest to in character um they seem to think uh my family seems to think that I'm willing to be patient and wait on God's timing okay why would they think that because I've had offers like you know I've had offers to marry but I never wanted I never wanted anything except for God's perfect will even though I could could have been married by now I could have had three or four kids by now um the fact the fact that turning down um I think the fact that turning down engagements of because I knew it wasn't right I knew God didn't want me to be with them and even though yeah it would have been nice to be married by now it would be nice to have a family by now I just I never wanted to set I never wanted to settle for God's permissive will ever how how do you know the difference though between a per will and perfect will in your life or how have you known the difference I think when okay perfect will I think God kind of do oh man why you putting me on the spot said you wanted to talk about this so I'm asking you about it I know but I'm just gonna be judged later like why did you say this come on people have been judging me about these things for 67 episodes straight so just stop caring and you got this I have faith in you I wouldn't have you here unless I had faith in you okay I feel like God I feel like if it's God God's will I feel like you'll just know like God will give you that piece about it you're not going to wonder whether or not oh is he right for me um are we supposed to be together you know everything will just kind of Click but his permissive will I think I think it would just halfway work out instead of fully work out if you know what I mean like you meet someone and you you know you like him say you fall in love and but and and I mean I've seen but I've seen some beautiful like uh honestly I've seen some good situations or situations that did turn good from God's prise of Will and even if it's not his perfect will you know he's still God and he still turns it into something beautiful but with that I think you get a lot of Heartache yeah can we stop talking about this now sure yeah I P I was pulling up some quotes about it I don't get in trouble I mean I'm just telling you from my perspective like yeah let's get into that so you say I don't want to get in trouble what exactly does that mean are you afraid that someone's going to take what you're saying and say o Faith said something wrong even if that were true what wrong I know I know people in that situation and I just don't want to feel like I'm judging them and I'm not that's just my personal opinion interesting don't on that feel like you're judging them what do you mean by judging what would that what would that mean by what standard I just don't want to be mean so if you compare someone's actions to the to the message of the hour and they're wrong according to the law of God and you talk about it you're judging them you're not judging them God is because like you know it's a what's true is going to be what's true yeah and you know I'd say like you know permissive will perfect will permissive will will not line up with the word will not always line up with the word and it'll always be something that feels better to your flesh and it's easier and it's always something that you want to do right now and his perfect is going to be different he can turn his permissive will into his perfect will yeah because the feeling that God's G the feeling that God will give you you're not going to feel rushed Satan rushes you God doesn't yeah let me find a quote on it because I know let's see also my family wants to watch this live and I don't know if they're in here or not oh well it'll be archived put it on your last the last one's already on YouTube so um yay yeah for some reason since I switched phones all lives after I post them say like zero views but they actually on average probably have around a thousand each that's what they had before because whenever I post a real few minutes long get bunch of yous so that's probably what it's sent um so it's good good stuff as long as it helps people then I'm okay with it the word will always correct the error and if you tell someone the word of God and it corrects their error you're not judging them the word of God just because words are just words and people already take what you're saying and apply it to themselves and if the shoe fits but you're not saying I think you should stop doing this but you're actually saying something according to the word of God then you're not judging it's actually a Baptist or a denominational idea that we should oh don't judge anybody why not CU like judging by our own knowledge of course don't do that but if I show you hey the woman shall not wear that which pertains to a man and a man shall not wear that pertains to woman all that do so an abomination of the Lord your God like oh that's judging no it's not it's already been judged do I do struggle with that though um and I I do try not to judge because I know I've been in their shoes before um depends what you mean by judge negative actions are wrong right ju okay just for example like oh she used to wear skirts but now she wears pants it's like yeah what do you what do you mean by that guess that's the whole podcast what do you mean by I guess it's not judging okay do you have another question yeah sure okay sure also I love this book by the way everybody the Bible I'm kidding the court character in conduct yeah that's a Lightner put it together it's a great book I've read it several times great book very I also love the green one marriage courtship and dating or something like that from uh with Paul dks that also great is very good so so character what do you think okay we'll go through through this what are some red flags for girls or for that we'll flip down and head what are some red flag from a girl's perspective what are some red flags that a guy sh should run from if he sees in a girl oh my if they're talking yes okay um are we talking about a Christian guy or a non-Christian guy or just in like in general are you talking about someone in the message Chris all sorts of people watch this podcast so CHR people in general um so like if a guy say something but you're a girl and according to your perspective you know something that's red flag maybe guys a guy wouldn't know that yeah okay um that's actually a good question um well I have seen different people get into relationships where they didn't know Jesus but you know their partner you know their partner kind of pers persuade um like I've seen situations where the guy wasn't a Christian or the girl wasn't a Christian but they prayed for their boyfriend or husband and then they did get into the message but at this time I think it's really critical and you just have to beware and you're totally judging me stop it no I I was waiting for you to answer the the the question that I asked okay I'm not I'm not going to look at you when I answer this okay okay one red flag is is they disrespect their mother or anybody what does that look like just you know disrespect like treating her wrong like talking to her like talking down to her being mean just um can we just say disrespect and like move on well yeah I mean the point of the question is specific things that from a girl's perspective a guy would not see like from a guy's perspective that a girl would not see is if a guy does not put forth effort to treat people underneath him with respect okay you're talking about from a girls perspect from a girl's perspective or a guys a girl perspective what would be red flx what would be red flags for girls she like girls red flags that would come from girls and you being a girl knowing perspective maybe something that a guy would okay so what are red flags in my opinion yeah that girl that a girl would show to a guy but a guy would know his red flag but you know it is because you're a girl I'm so confused okay um take your time I'm tired it's been a long day um I woke up w h I've been waking up early and working long hours okay so all right um okay first thing even if it's a girl or a guy if they if they don't have any respect for their parents or any other authority then that is a red flag if they don't respect them they're not going to respect you um all right here's a serious question I have oh no why do girls never know what they want to eat their eat food like what is the problem like where do you want to eat I don't know why do girl never you know what a simple trick is hey babe guess where I'm taking you Olive Garden bam go to Olive Garden I've tried that and they just say oh I don't know that's sad I always I pretty much always know what I want to eat are you are you secretly a guy or something because I've never known a girl that knows what she wants to eat no I mean there are things that sound I mean I can find something to eat basically at any place so like I like going to fish places and I like going I also like going to fast food places I love going to Arby's I love Taco Bell so you know what's your favorite thing is Taco Bell she's good to eat a crunch it's a good one especially with that I know like they're not I know like they're um they're veggy Bowl but I guess it's not really considered a veggie Bowl it's got like rice chicken um and it has veggies in it yep it's like a burrito basically without the burrito tortilla burrito bowl a burrito bowl you know how is it a burrito without the burrito it's the without the flowa I didn't say without the had before it's called the power Manu can't you go back to questions yes easy questions okay all right what things do you think a girl should have an order before she thinks that she's ready to uh get married [Music] um like what like what she needs to have done basically or you're the girl I have no idea are you talking about like what she needs to accomplish sure or and B where does she need to be at in life sure yeah oh um I think she needs to be mature [Music] um I think okay do you think a girl needs a college degree before she gets married no but doesn't that prove that she's somewhere in life if she has a college degree no I see that's an honest answer no okay but wouldn't the guy look at her as someone who uh the guy might look at her as too smart not want to be with her I'm just kidding Fair Point Fair Point interesting you think do you think that it is a valid point of view for a girl to only want to have a career and travel the world and to never want to be married do you think it's what what sorry do you think it's a valid point of view something that should be done to want to work and travel and never want to have a family yep you think that's normal no okay not every woman but not every woman wants to be a mother which is sad that's that's really sad in my opinion okay all right so how about this what things do you think a guy should have in order before he thinks he can get married to a girl and you're a girl like you you're look you you want to be married what things do you think a guy should have in order and together in order for you to think this guy is ready for marriage versus you know maybe and maybe a way to start that is by saying these are the things that say to you that he's not ready maybe red flags or whatever to be ready well I I mean to have an order um I think the guy should at least have a stable job he doesn't have to be rich but he has to be financially stable okay in order to support me and him and possibly a family um can you like put the camera one place and keep it there no C I keep shaking I'm Shing so bad You' got this we have faith in you no pun intended I did not I did not see that actually Point okay um okay well that's one thing [Music] um also some guys think they have to go over the top to impress a girl like they need to spend say or or they some think they need to spend like I can't give an actual amount like a lot of money on engagement ring or Kaylin Barrett said you're doing amazing smiley face heart so you're doing good um by the way they think it she's been on a lot of these lives and she's never told anyone else that so great job all right um but yeah a lot of thing a lot of guys I think think they need to spend a lot of money in order to press a girl like they have to have the nicest car they have to have they have to make a lot of money they have to you know do all this one really girls okay there are some girls that are materialistic I'm not going to lie there are but there are also some girls that just want your time and energy and commitment and love and honesty and I mean if a guy is financially stable and let's say he has like a little house of his own or you know that that would be an ideal situation but also where he is with Christ has a lot to do with it as well okay interesting what about if he Liv still lives with his parents um I know I know some guys are still with their live with their parents it's not like a I mean I wouldn't call it a red flag yeah okay what about debt how do you feel about a guy that has a bunch of debt versus a guy that doesn't I don't know okay so what you tell me is is because like I've asked people especially girls really what certain amount of money and in my opinion that's not how girls look at things guys look at things very logically like this is exactly how much and I think a girl will look at more like no I want to be supported because if I asked you for a number you might say $200,000 thinking that that's you know or last time I asked they said 80 to 120 which is the top 3% of men in like 18 to 30 approximately so like but really depends on where you live how much you make how well you're able to manage that money so what you're telling me is is you want a guy that has the stuff together and you know out of debt or financially it definitely is ideal it definitely is ideal for him to be for for him to not be in dead but I'm not going to say like oh that's a huge red flag or that yeah I'd say it's a it's a red flag is a red flag it's redish you know it's not like oh that's a complete turnoff but it's kind of in the middle like okay it's not ideal either you know what I mean it's R I'd say depend on what they're doing with it depend on red flag like in for instance in my life Lord willing I will never have a car payment I will never get debt on anything except a house Lord willing it's the way Dave Ramsey do it that's way I'll do it um josi McLaren says when I got married I had 2,000 in my account I was working three jobs oh my goodness that's awesome like it worked out pretty well Nathaniel cross wants to join Nathaniel you wantel cross I can join here see what he thinks live in work okay maturity is a big one okay well what definitely a big one yes the mature one himself nael what's up Nathaniel why are you black tonight Nathaniel we can't see you at all whole screen black I was getting on here I don't really know what we're talking about but I see people talking about money and getting married um and I don't know anything about either one of them but I can get my best advice so my dad told me one time he said it's best to get married when you're broke at your lowest point so that way nothing can ever get worse well you could be dying at the same time though you okay what I was gonna say though it is important for the man for someone to be for a man to be mature but since humor is a big thing as long as they know like when to be serious and when to Goof Off get back in the kitchen man will never mature we don't get bigger our toys do let me see is true yeah he's not really wrong yeah well but the Daniel's an inspiration yes okay well what about uh so a sense of humor what about you know tall or short why do girls care so much about how tall a guy is why um I don't okay I'm gonna say this and this is not to be mean I re I mean I'm 5'2 you know me I'm pretty short but yeah yeah yeah okay okay okay I'm sry aren't you legally a hobbit no I don't think so am I you probably are in in one in some countries okay fine I'm a hobbit I don't want to date anyone shorter than me I'm sorry I think girls only like tall guys so they their kids can have a chance of being in the NBA wait what no yep hey Rachel on the live she uh hob she's only five feet tall so there some know what a hobbit is Hobbit is a u It's Like a Star Trek thing person how does it feel Faith there's only one person this whole life shorter than you okay great we need to get to the bottom of this who runs the Revelation 101 account I've been wondering this for like they're on here they're watching and I have to know ration what is that kind again what' you say their account re oh let me see see um I don't know bye Colin one oh I don't know who I need to figure that out I'm kind of curious take a bet I would say Thomas cross maybe that's what I thought but he told me it's not probably yeah with the the the thumbnail of a little girl you know threw me off it's probably a girl honestly because a dude would never have a post that was uh with thumnail that you know definitely a girl I don't know well this just took a turn hey across every time he gets on the whole the whole thing so it's fun are yall g go is he gonna go with us to the church you to go back to the church with us for a little well I don't want to have make him don't care he likes spinning money I really um I think this lagged SP money oh never mind they're just both looking perfectly still uh here what were we talking let's see says my wife is 5'2 I'm 64 sometimes I think I married a child I understand that yeah if she's that short you can definitely feel like that are you serious if I marry someone called they're going to think I'm a child kind of in a way like they we know they're a girl they're a wife and everything but still they're pretty small people you know like you can you can see their feet and the driver's license picture if they fall off the bed they'll literally die they can hang glide on a Dorito all the things no okay we're murdering curbs out here you're what we're murdering CBS curbs his chicken sandwich fell at his feet you get that bro 5 second rule can't get that belly used to have to get itel why don't you have here or you know what dude are you getting where are you going he'll leave in a little bit why do I not have a girlfriend yeah what's wrong with youel you too tall no it's just like are you're too skinny is that it no it's not even that I'm I'm sure there I'm sure there's girls interested you just don't 100% it's all the time I count them on my hands and Toes don't rush the man yeah I'm not rushing them I'm just saying no it's all right what's up Levi po welcome to the live Nathaniel why doesn't Eli join this anymore you know I really Eli Eli works a lot cool tell him I said hi I will I'll let him know I'll have to beat him atwt oneon-one later on this year it'll be fun probably not what's up wonder that oh is my effect still on I was doing hold on I was wondering and he left okay yeah okay that was great that was interesting yeah let's see uh Simon clar Says definitely too skinny bro is a toothpick and a stretcher yeah okay that's kind of true though that's kind of true even though I haven't been around him in a while that's yeah do girls care about a guy being skinny or whatever um not really I mean I think you know we care about like them being healthy I mean of course we don't want them we don't want to accidentally left uh what what are we talking about um still single why am I still single um well can anyone really answer that question honestly Faith what's your age limit I mean is 10 years too much or is 13 years too much age difference older or younger younger yes you guys can him or me I'm pretty sure 13 years would be a very age difference are you asking him or me um sir if I dated a girl 13 years younger than me what is that four no older than old older than no you oh older than me the limit is like I don't know let's see Ben Jackson says why are you single bro we're all asking the same thing about you why am I single it's definitely because of the shirt definitely because the red shirt cuz it's it's red David is single is he is David secretly a rizzler hey I William the the redhead that comes on live his name is Ivan William rler so he's the real rler technically why are you black I can't see you I need to finish school and that's kind of like the biggest thing right now is just finishing school and growing you know because like as as wonderful and attractive as a toothpick is girls don't like toothpick that much kamary yeah well you never know hopefully the girl that even toix get some food on them now and again listen hopefully the girl or girls don't really care about what dudes look like on the outside brother you should know it's what's on the the same maybe one day yeah yeah I honestly think the reason that man there's just girls spa left and right for us is because of the because of my last name it's just kind of like a saw after thing you know the body shaming is crazy we're not body I'm not body shaming because what Nathaniel what did you say I said I think part of the reason is girl like most girls just just what they want the last name cross oh they don't want to get double crossed here they all girls want to be a cross it's just a thing you should like take your first date you should take a girl to his a Crossroads so you can say I took her to a Crossroads okay uh says dude's l to the size of my arms that's probably accurate Nathaniel all girls say it's what it's on the inside but deep down inside they're looking for the hot guys I me think I think they want the eff guys in my opinion my opinion they want the effective ones and the ones that are that care but don't care socially at the same time confidence competence and concentration and I I have a certain type and that hasn't really like changed so it's hard for me to say yeah I mean like Cy keyboards when you type on them that's usually correct the correct one like I use a Cy Cordy keyboard you bad yeah like Nathaniel's just Frozen completely I think his uh I think his uh nut nutrients uh nutrient deficiency freezing really bad someone called you a dating coach what no can y'all hear me we can hear yes we can can't see you sorry I was on the phone with my sister here if you can draw can we draw a little face on the black part that'd be funny actually let's see uh bus mom says I've been married for almost 11 years looks aren't nearly as important as I once thought no they're not the older you get you're going to realize that too it's well here the thing though I said this in the live if in my opinion and I'll say this if a guy and a girl are not attracted to each other they shouldn't get married no you have you have to have that attraction yep but I've also known some cases where like let's say the guy wasn't as attractive as a girl would like but that guy was so sweet and so kind and so caring like it made him more attractive to her I've also seen situations like that so you know you can't really say yes or no yeah um someone said David would you date someone older than you and you put yes yeah a lot of my friends do David David would you date someone at all no actually I would call it courting I don't like calling something dating because that's what the world does I think you should call it courting and I you should be serious about it Le us said David would you date someone at all no I would Court them okay would Court someone at all sure maybe you have before yeah yeah would of course of course I would whatever God wants though I mean yeah people really hate the red the red shirts so I mean who who knows be let's see David do you have a girlfriend do I have a girlfriend what do you mean by girlfriend that is a yes or no question yeah I think he just answered yes what's the difference okay John M says what's the difference between what's your difference between dating and quing well it's just a terminology thing I guess it depend on what you mean by mean you like each other and that you're saying hey I like you and I want to talk to you courting is basically like it reminds me of like preparation for marriage almost like you're go you're more leaning towards that and dating is more like fun I don't like like using the word dating because of what the world puts it with but I'd say one word where it could fit in is what if you're like 16 17 18 both of you in the same you know Age part and you neither one of you was like ready for marriage but if you're both adults and you're both ready to like get married within the next year or less then it's courting okay someone said to answer Nathaniel's question and I'm trying to I don't know I have someone I'm talking to but it would depend on what you mean by girlfriend okay so would you cons it courting depends on what someone means by courting I know okay can we just say yes he is because around the bushes here he's courting David I think I think it's about time you make it public I'm about it so yes I am but I'm keeping it quiet and to see what God wants no one knows okay ni hey you want to see the front door of my church check it yes I do show the front door boom nice that looks awesome drive up driveing the door well you ready go to church you're not I you you drive to the door and [Laughter] knock that's funny I think we should normalize taking dogs to church dude that's what I bought a dog a girlfriend Legos very nice I forgot girlfriend out of Legos what what I me don't give me that look David has a girl girlfriend I think we can all yeah he does but he's Frozen unless he's just like like really mad oh yeah he was frozen if well hey if I can win anybody else can everyone I said you had a girlfriend so you might as well just make it public uh Moses I'm here we meeting Mom and Dad so they can take me home we had a night out with the boys no fun and end with Legos that's awesome yeah I need to clean up all my trash I got McDonald's chickfila all in one day that's that's too much man no it was just like ice cream from McDonald's and then uh what did you do Isaac and then uh one of them went and got Chick-fil-A and then we went to Wendy's because we were thirsty hey Isaac I hope you know that there's a Oreo McFlurry over here in the floor wait does it have anything in it oh my gosh guys uh no clean it up then I am cleaning it up it's right it's already cleaned up I think that means you something fun oh yeah I'm sorry you're just uh hey y'all want to just like have church tonight that's a good idea we should let's just go in there and have church honestly like dude isn't it weird we're gonna have our Saturday night service well if I was there I could wait for um what's my favorite what's a favorite thing about living in Tennessee David uh favorite thing you can say he lives in the same state as Donnie Reagan that's what my favorite thing about it would be no um probably that I'm in the epicenter of three I'm three to five hours from like a 100 different Mage churches or more which is really nice the skinny kid metabolism goes crazy we're like minutes from you skinny kids that have the metabolism to never gain weight have the most advice for people who gain weight easily it's really annoying see I don't know about all that man I used to be fat whenever I was little that's not I'm that's baby fat it's different though no no it was fat it was fat fat I was like 13 were you fat a baby F I was a little chubby wasn't just whenever I was a baby was fat at like 14 to like three years ago yeah no I was a kid I was as three or four or five I was really skinny um I was actually underweight but I mean I was never I was a little chubby but I was never like you know I don't under height too you've always been under height you've been under a lot of things because you're so short what do you guys think most people get wrong about dating courtship in the message uh nothing uh get wrong wrong not involving their Pastor is my opinion and not there's nothing you can do wrong there's D no I'm totally kidding no not not including your pastor or and your parents very much you need to have a solid relationship with the girl's father and mother if you don't you will most likely fail you need to feel like you're being completely transparent with them if they don't then you won't have you won't be successful I want I want um whoever like who whoever I end up getting engaged to like to at least try to be a part of my family like try to get along with them but I you knowen if you can't be best friends with her parents honestly it's not even worth it it's literally not yeah there's there's the rare time when you have to get married you're supposed to get married to her and a parents W work out but most of the time if as long as you have your stuff together you have no debt have a consistent job you have the Holy Ghost you go to church all these things and the parents don't like you then that's you know that's when you get a pastor involved whatever but they should like you as long as you have everything in order and you're doing things correctly if they don't like you still you know as long as they make your son or daughter happy yeah guys I'm gonna get in the car with my dad to go home and he's gonna steal my phone to get on the live so I should probably get off now but see yall later thanks for being on y bye bye that was fun what' you think of that it was different well dynamically adjusting to who in alive is one of my uh Hobbies I love doing that so much you change the way you talk the way you listen the way you continue talking everything else it's very successful Daniel Morris says we want your dad will have asked him pretty soon he will Lord willing we praying about it but you going to love it like imagine me except 10,000 times more wise and 10,000 times more patient and that's my Deb um but like okay so style Faith from guys do we have to have a specific style or just have one in general or what do girls actually think about that stuff um okay from me um in my perspective I want the guy as long as they don't look sloppy like I when a guy okay sloppy as in like um okay do you like the difference between letting this go and like having it trimmed up like that wait what do you mean what like if I my grow it' be hair all over my neck but if I trimmed it up like this it wouldn't be sloppy is that a an example of that no I thought Oh I thought you were talking about clothes both I don't know what you're talking I think I think grooming is part of style yeah okay yeah I agree um so Leah sheeld I me yourself and put some thought into it yeah I think all I think all girls would agree with that I mean we just of course you know we want our guy to look nice or a guy to I think if the guy's if the guy's average or above average or still lives with his parents and has an extra1 to $2,000 a month to spend on whatever he wants he should pick a major brand and buy their best stuff like Calvin Klein um PR UMO or or a like a Men's Warehouse kind of thing and just go all out and get their best stuff let's see Julie faith says yes a guy having a good style is the best we girls put so much effort looking presentable that we want our guys to as well yeah we do I mean I think it's I mean I personally think it's really handsome especially for church if they especially fix themselves up a little bit more like a tailored suit no what you like suits are you like they're okay crazy they're okay Jesus was here he'd be in a suit and tie he you know that's that's fine you know threea suits Levi okay that's fine but also like what looks better than C pants a nice dress shirt a High also works but a suit is so much better though okay well add a you can they can add a suit jacket to it you can't tell me that a tailored suit and tie like a three-piece suit and tie isn't better than look good in a suit but we also like a little yeah but the best is a suit is what I'm saying that's your opinion let's see jiah says I think real Burly man is lacking I think man these days try to try too hard to look good clean is okay but at least look manly I agree grow a beard boys stop being clean [ __ ] no no no no not all men not all men look good with a beard I'm serious okay which men don't look good with a beard I'm not goingon to say like me oh you think I don't look good with a beard what I found people love it or hate it people say go from looking 27 to 17 one thing I really hate is like the single mustache I'm sorry I do I don't like it okay Le Sheffield says sorry Leah Sheffield these are coming so fast I mean to interrupt Leah Sheffield says suits are okay it has to fit perfect law Daniel moris says I can't grow a beard yet enjoy the days Daniel because if you want to stay clean shaving it's going to be expensive and kit says agreed just perfect I okay un I'm not saying that's all girls I'm just saying my personal personal perspective I just don't like a mustache on guys but like a you know like right here around here like if it's clean especially a mustache that goes from here to here like that's the worst I've seen actual mustaches that curl like yosity Sam what about a mustache that goes from here to here and like everything else should shaved wouldn't that be perfect no why no I mean who who else had one like that that was famous Hitler yeah you got it there we go yeah it was it was Hitler um let's see says not really a beard but I hate pink on men Skin Tight Pants and the real lack of BR I agree Josiah I wore a pink one time and it was a tie for Sarah's wedding and I almost didn't but she said please David everyone's all the guys are doing okay but I don't think a guy wearing is UN I don't consider it to be unmanly tight jeans yes and tight pants yes but Pink I'd rather die I'd literally rather die okay but that's for you there's some guys that do wear pink and that's fine you know unless a guy's like anorexic or something what have you ever seen the picture of the 400 pound man with a shirt that says I beat anorexia [Laughter] no you're just body shaming all over the place what you're just body shaming all over play body sh shaming no I'm bad decision shaming okay um L post says David the dress code for my wedding is pink and green I don't know IFI I'll wear black and green but not pink um let's see Jo uh jerich says you won't have to ask a guy to be a certain way if he's interested in you I agree um Le shaa says pinking a tie yes shirt no in my opinion yeah that makes more sense um Levi says please honor my code Daniel Mor says okay no pink pants or shirt but pink ACC looks good interesting pink accent maybe like a pink like a pocket square something actually I would not do have pocket square that's pink honestly or hot pink that's your opinion and that's fine truth is this it's just its culture and its tradition there's really no scriptures or quotes for it I mean my wedding is going to be like uh hunter green so no pink hunter green mhm what's hunter green did a hunter create the or something I'm trying to give you an example I don't think I have an example I Googled it it's very pretty I don't know what I mean I don't know what color that I'm GNA use to go with it yet I I'm thinking maybe like well not a burnt orange Ranna Ranna weak says bright pink is soad I agree Levi PO says some guys better not burnt orange orange is the worst color of all time one of the worst I no didn't like I don't know all I know is I want hunter green I want like a woodsy type thing not like over the top but like you know little Woody here's a good question I can shift to this so how do girls want to be approached by guys online online cuz some guys can't at every place and like talk to them in person some of us actually you know live far away from everybody maybe the girl of your dreams was 6,000 Mi away so okay how do the want be approached can I give my perspective on what I would like sure there you go that that's the best perspective you've got okay I think one way to break the ice is either a funny meme like a clean funny meme or just say hey you know I saw your profile I you know you looked really nice and I just like to get to better you know it's it's sweet it's simple you know it's not like over the top like oh my goodness you're so hot yeah wouldn't do it let's see Le post says bro never saw Sunset Daniel Mor says I wouldn't wear bright pink but I like bright color shirts like light blue and color and green I agree Daniel that's F and some don't wear pink and that's that's okay mlar says shouldn't approach a girl online as far as not approaching a girl online I'd say of course is in my opinion always better to approach them in person but just approach it very gently being the brother of Two Sisters that got married because they met their spouses online I wouldn't say that it's always the case to never approaches anybody online I think that you should meet them online and then you know and they get to know them if that that's your only place because not all of us go to a church or live in an area that has 300 kids our age within an hour of us well another I look at is mutual friends n says man up and fly down and meet the family and ask the dad like you're supposed to and that that is a style Justa that is a a culture it depends some families don't even want you to ask the dad at all unless you've been talking for six months so it it depends what's up buddy how you doing good what's your name Wy Wyatt Wyatt I love the C buddy that is a cool shirt looks like you splattered paint on it let's see Josiah McLaren says it's the only appropriate way to do it Josiah I see things differently because uh three or four of my sisters they got married didn't do it that way and the four sister isn't even married yet in my opinion though if a guy meets a girl online he should go out and meet her within the first few days of meeting of talking to her to uh meet the parents and the family because I wouldn't feel com talking to a girl talking to a girl who has a father and a mother without actually meeting them in person and shaking their hand I don't think it's a I think it's a wise thing now is everyone has own Styles and their cultures but to say like oh well it's always the case to do it a certain way just isn't true it's just different cultures let's see just talking to a girl online is pretty inappropriate if I ever found out someone was talking to my daughter online with asked me first I'd flip a switch that's interesting that is certainly an opinion I see things different and seeing people get married from doing things differently you yeah sorry I'm having to move so talking to a pretty that's just a culture thing it just depends completely a culture thing I have a I have a father who talks about these things it's completely a culture thing it's like I've never met a person that thinks that way that doesn't go that goes to a that is you know without youth in their church I've never had anyone tell me that when they actually don't have don't go to church with like you know 40 or PE 40 or 50 people with like at least five people their age at the church because it's easy to say don't talk to people online when you go to a church with a bunch of Youth your age I have to travel three hours at a minimum to find anyone my age in the message 3 hours at the minimum now I have gone to everything there is almost to try to meet them but usually I have to travel um I got use the bathroom I'll be right back guys you guys keep going company space I'll be right back okay what up hello people M you have one that's mine look that yeah that one he's he's in the bathroom no it doesn't that one's [Music] yours take your med take a shower R James I'm going to wake your daddy up come you're not listening to me get take your [Music] [Applause] [Music] I don't know [Music] yeah hey here Joy huh she was she was calling tell you they were asking questions and you weren't answering I couldn't see I can't see all the questions she can't see all the question David can but I can't it's his live teller is his life because I can't so I can't see him anytime now hi hello how's it going okay so my mom called and she said people have been asking me questions and I have not been answering them okay okay perfect there's a ton of comments on here so let me go through these quick hold on okay he's gonna go through the questions see all right so last one is Levi post says uh social media's only been around for like 15 years I feel like you still got to show up and meet the family and ask the dad I agree Levi I agree yeah of course let's see here no one's saying that you don't have to do that at all and get married over a video call you know to see Hannah have you ever met David in person that's what Hannah Weeden asks oh what oh no I have a yeah like 11 years the story don't we were both in that play I looked like identical to your boyfriend I thought you were Matt you thought was your boyfriend cuz I was wearing a shirt and same thing and it threw me off and I was like yeah and we had the same like body type and face structure and stuff like that we look so he got so mad at me it was hilarious it was funny we did um let's see says I grew up in a church with eight people in it and somehow I managed to talk to my wife's dad before I started talking to her I think that's a good thing to said no one's saying this is a bad thing that a good I'm just saying that isn't the way that everyone does it and it's not wrong if everyone doesn't like chocolate pie the way you do um we says I think the guy should ask the girl if she is interested and if she is the guy should talk to the dad to see if it's okay to talk to over the phone just I agree let's see let's see see and then Kim says 100% agree Daniel Mo says your simic clear yeah but you don't know if that girl even likes you it's good just make friends and get to know the parents as soon as possible I'm sure that's what we did um let's see here says if you met a girl you say at a youth meeting or Camp Etc and you realize that you like her your next step had better be to talk to her dad better not be texting or messengering or Etc that's an opinion but that's not the absolute way of is opinion because like in my personal experience some girls are like hey talk to my dad and I'm like okay cool usually the first question I'll ask a girl is like hey are you the type of family where I need to ask the dad right away or are you this type of family where you don't want me asking your dad until we've talked a while and just as friends and you want us to become more than and Friends CU different families do it differently I can't recall talking to someone anyone though that wanted to talk to my dad before they talk to me though depends I think you should I think you should like the way I do it is I say hey if you need me to talk to your dad give me his number let me know when I can call him and I call right okay go take a shower and I think that people should do that and call them as soon as they need to but last thing you want to do is call a girl dab when he's like why are you calling me you guys are just friends it depends you know let's see and uh L PO says I feel like it's also depend on how old she is um like if you're both 65 then there might not be any parents to ask yeah that to Levi no you're okay okay s mlar says it's super inappropriate to go behind the dad's back it's definitely not a culture thing Josiah if you're going to say you're completely right and everyone else is completely wrong that's just not a wise way of approaching it well again it's your opinion though yeah it's it's well an opinion it is an established way of doing things from a hundred years ago that still goes into effect today but it's not that way for everybody because there are different types of people for instance there's cultures where youve like Jeffersonville Indiana where a lot of the culture is yeah you can talk to each other as friends but you can't continue talking past friends unless you uh talk to the father because that's the way that do it in any way isn't the wrong way just because it isn't the exact way that you did it growing up because we when you know what happened when books came out they said you shouldn't read books books are evil and then the same thing was said about video games and movies and everything else um same way with this is like it just depends different families do it differently and my rule is ask the girl hey what do I need to do what do you how do you guys do this as far as me talking to your dad and if the girl says my dad doesn't want any guys talking to him unless he they want to courter and he and he only wants and he wants me to uh talk to the girl or he wants me to talk to the guy for at least a few months and get to know him first now me personally with my children my my daughters if they want to talk to any guy the guy has to talk to me first that's the way I'm going to do it exactly way MC says it but I'm not I'm saying that that's not the case for everyone yeah let's see Levi post says or Noah I'm sorry I'm trying to read these Noah says what if our dad lives in another state then drive there or fly there um Levi says I don't think messaging a girl to figure out if you want to be something isn't going behind the dad's back um well that's an opinion but you you'd have to text two of my brother-in-laws and tell them that um let's see Levi post says like imagine you called the Dad and she was not on board with at all yeah you'd have to you'd have to make sure the girl likes you first at the wedding the D the dad is the one that gives the daughter away yeah so Mor says yeah that's true especially if you've been texting for a while and I messed up there at one point and I will never do that again in my opinion you should through all of it you should tell the girl hey do I or ask her do I I need to talk to your dad if she's like no then okay cool if she's like yes then you're like okay cool what's his number what's his name and can I call him right now actually at byc I gave a few guys in my dorm advice on how to talk to a girl's dad because they asked for it and they needed it and you should be agnostic about it we're like I don't care do I need to talk to her dad do I not but never say oh I don't want to talk to her dad if a guy doesn't want to talk to a girl's dad he should not be talking to the girl a certain subject I just don't know who all is listening so I can't um but I'll message you about it later and I'll I'll answer more about that cool okay yeah you're fine yeah Daniel Mo I mean it's just uh you never want to project that you don't want to talk to the girl's father you need to talk to them I will say there was there was a certain situation where he did want to be close to my dad and he did talk to him and he was he looked at him like he looked at my dad like a father figure and like Levi's go ahead sorry no no you're good Levi post says imagine asking a girl if you needed to talk to her dad and she goes we're just friends what do you mean exactly Levi that's why this idea of oh well you can't talk to the girl at all unless you are talk you've talked to her father first that was right a hundred years ago maybe In some cultures but it's not true everywhere and you need to gauge on how the girl does it on how they approach it some fathers want you to have a three-hour conversation with them before you even talk to the girl at all past meeting or in person it's depends um and let's see another person I I to talk to him first like ideal but you know uh let's see Elijah Nicholson I think it's light South legs how many dads you talk to Dave I talked to my dad and my sisters um he my four sisters and they're all what we call biblically beautiful and I've seen tons of guys try and fail to date them and to court them and I've heard my dad talk about all the things they did right and all the things that they did wrong and that's what I'm I'm applying here let's see uh KK says sometimes the dad would also prefer the guy to visit rather than just a phone call exactly my point is but you you adapt to the way they want to do it and never be afraid to talk to the father or the parents because in my opinion it may be really nervous to but as long as you have your life together and you're a straight shooter talking to the girl's parents should be the easiest part of the whole the whole situation it's the easiest part because if you like the girl and the girl likes you too and they see that sparkle in the daughter's eye they want her to be happy and if you have your stuff together and you're honest it's the easiest thing yeah um Daniel Mor says hey sometimes it's an expensive trip to do that well Daniel if you can't afford to go visit the girl you want to talk to if she wants you to talk to her dad you shouldn't be talking to her because some families long we've been on this subject well it's it's something to get people involved because all of these different things in live is what do you mean by Whatever Gets people involved com though I'm trying I can't see um Leia post says get your money up not your funny up that's fine Levi that's perfect um Rand we says if he wanted to he would exactly yeah Alex my brother-in-law traveled 5,000 miles to visit Anna my sister 5,000 been married for like six years now um so yeah there go bunch of thoughts on it but um let's see says my Phil has a black belt in Taw they're super intimidating I don't know what that means just S I can honestly say though if a guy was willing to drive that far like I live all the way in North Carolina if a guy was willing to drive that far just to meet my dad and for that I'd feel pretty honored it make me special yeah yeah people make time for what they want to make time for oh father-in-law so just MC was comment was my father-in-law is a black belt in Taekwondo super intimidating funny well depends by intimidating yeah like like KK or Levi says imagine pulling up and she goes bro I'm dating someone that's why you ask these questions and you can usually gaug it based on how they want to talk to you how to continue one of the hardest things for a guy or for a girl to do is to decipher between when a guy is being friendly or when a girls being friendly versus them liking you when one person's from a place with a big youth group and one person is not or maybe they both are but they approach it very different culturally or maybe they have no experience with it so why you have to be careful it and pray about it says if the girl 100% likes me and she wants me to meet her dad don't worry I will play buy any play ticket or drive thous thousands of miles I believe you Daniel I think should talking to the girl's dad dad on the phone first if she lives 4,000 miles away and you're trying to put your life together but if he insists then sure but you can try let's see Lei says I talked to your dad and he said I could have your number like you need you need to have some chemistry or some connection with the girl first to know whether or not she actually wants to talk to you you can't just think oh she's pretty we go talk to her father yeah but if she don't want your number it ain't happening um let's see light South leg says uh their dads need to ask me to date their daughter okay and Daniel so Moyer says whatever the dad wants yeah that's right you want to be straightforward and you want to connect with the father and the mom as well you want them to know that you're straightforward and you're honest and you're a straight shooter and you're not and you don't have any negative negative uh intentions and if you can communicate that and they can realize that you want that you feel that way you'll have a great Rel relationship with them which will make the girl love you even more and it just creates a great relationship yeah exactly what do you why are you spelling smelling your blanket so much like because it SM it smells good it was wash it was wash it smells good and it's cozy and it's AO blanket gab Gabriel Boer says don't you start by being friends and then see feel like each other in some places sure um I that's an ideal that's an ideal situation honestly um because a friendship a friendship can easily turn into a relationship and you know that could easily turn into a marriage yeah and I I want a husband that's I want a best friend like I just I need to have that yeah I agree Levi PO says okay David how many girls have you messaged on social media how many have I messaged on social media well as far ason as far as the girls that I have not met in person you know it's like a cold text like a cold call never actually meeting them as few as possible well I haven't met anyway um Jerica Mill says if a guy is interested in a girl you should be praying about it I agree um and what we need to also differentiate is kids talking to each other versus adults talking to each other if it's like 27 18yearold or two 18y olds that don't have the life together and they're in a culture where you don't really get married or whatever until you're 25 or 30 it's different but if it's 2 21 year olds that have their life together that want to get married within the next two years then it's more serious it just depends Daniel moris says um that's what I kind of do because I don't have a lot of Youth in my church R says all I know is what I would want is a guy that will be willing to talk to my dad with no hesitation that's exactly right I think that's amazing cuz like if you like the girl and if you says anything I talking to that talking to her dad unless you're willing to say okay what's his number what's his name how soon and can I call him right now then don't talk to her and if any guys worried about talking to a girl's father and needs help then I can put together a group chat like Levi po my brother Josh my brother Thomas we be my dad and I and we can help you guys you know uh let's see L post says bro you'll message girls on social media but you won't wear pink to my wedding fake friend well maybe I'll wear black face to your wedding Levi after all it is almost black history Mon it's a joke please it's a joke let's see Dan Mo says r a week seven that's very true very good me talk about something yeah um but this is a part subject for like 30 minutes it's interesting me for someone to for people to see you know how long people like talk about something before they're like oh I want to talk about something else because like uh you know it's podcast and I've had PE we've there's people that want to switch after five minutes people that don't want to switch even after for hours it depends it's all good you know I mean I know what I would like what would you like I want to get I want someone that shows their series about me and I think the fact that they do if they do go to my father first I mean that would seem pretty serious or if they talk to me and you know that's okay too yeah what about when people say you gotta talk to them and be friends first for a while before you do that I think it is important to be friends first because you got to see you've got to see see if you have that chemistry and plus if you can joke if you can joke around like best friends and then you know still love each other as like boyfriend girlfriend husband and wife I think that is a perfect situation because I love to goof off and marrying someone that loves to Goof Off with me then that would be amazing yeah you know we talked a lot about the one side of it where you have to um talk to the father beforehand and everything like that but the other side of that my father says no matter how thin you slice a piece of bread there's always two sides because the other side is if you want to talk to a girl's dad too early in some places they that'll throw a girl off and say he's moving way too fast so just I'm live I didn't mean to call you bad or anything I'm just saying that we all have different perspectives and my perspective isn't the right one every single time there's different ones and some girls and some fathers would be be very unattractive to that approach be you said sorry in a minute no you're F done um everyone has different opinions like you said you want your daughters to come to you whenever they date but you know not not all talk to me before he talks to my daughter yeah period you have to talk to me before you date my daughter or talk to my daughter I feel that way with my daughter yeah and that's fine especially because because I culturally live three hours away from any other churches basically so I have to now if I Liv in a in a in a church with a hundred boys my daughter's age and I knew the guy that want to talk to her that'd be different yeah it would so have you ever dyed your hair um I've gotten highlights but I've never dyed it it's like a it looks well it used to be it used to be more light brown and now it's there's sometimes it almost looks black like my grandma's so okay we've got a a mother in the chat that has a daughter talking about this this is perfect Melissa week sister Melissa week says um I think they can talk his friends first as long as the dad knows that's up to the girl to tell her dad then if it progresses he should talk to her dad each family is different I think that's awesome sister Melissa I think amazing and perfect um just m says I got good things to back it up and I don't feel like it's a cultural thing it's issue of things being appropriate or inappropriate inappropriate appropriate or not well Josiah I speak from personal experience if you want to take the stance of my way is the best way and everyone else's way is completely wrong it won't it's just not in my personal opinion I see things differently and I don't think that's the wisest way of doing it it's not going to be effective there's a sermon I'll preach one day this going to be called do you want to be right or do you want to be effective and it's not effective to say that everyone else's technique is wrong except for yours so what do you think about girls wearing clear nail polish you think it's wrong you think it's right where do you draw the line with it Sparkles or unnatural colors or or what because I I have no idea my nails look the way they do all the time because I've never messed around with them um okay I might get a lot of hate for this but I actually um I do wear clear nail polish sometimes and there are times I do like the french tips on my nails it just looks pretty but you know it's that's something that I haven't been convicted of yet yeah so I'm not gonna say like oh it's wrong oh it's right and I don't personally believe it's right clear nail polish I don't see anything against but um again it's it's conviction hey bud yeah I I agree I mean I someone I was once told in by a sales trainer of mine he said the what makes it about me the person but the why makes it all about the other person because the what doesn't matter to me the why matters yeah why is someone um why is someone uh wanting to do it or not want to do whatever Le says I think it depends on how much you trust your daughter being a father I agree like a relationship uh Jerick Mill says sometimes a guy and a girl do not share with with others they're talking because they don't want drama yeah it depends um first swi the mountain de Diet Mountain Dew as long as natural and thought we wouldn't sit sty Mountain Dew um but like you know it does depend on how much it depends on relationship um let see there we go back to the topic U Leah Sheffield says has someone asked me before what makes white paint different from red or black had someone asked me before what makes white paint different from red or black I don't know what that means but I don't know okay but um me personally like okay I'm gonna ask you this when you rather would you rather a girl being as natural as possible like hairwise nail wise you know what I mean I'd rather she have the Holy Ghost and go according to the convictions taught by our parents and our pastor and her relationship between her and God because I've seen some of the most religious people that there are who don't have a ounce of the Holy Ghost and some of the people that might be judged or seen as as very very way too Grace but they have a even better relationship with God I don't care about the what I care about the why the relationship they have with the Lord Jesus Christ is really between between them and God what music they listen to or what the paint they put on their nails or whatever me personally like I I had a friend that put like a stuff on their face to make it shine more and in the description it it said um it said uh half makeup half cleanser and I said well it says makeup in the description so I wouldn't do it the B preached against makeup yeah uh Sharon Mo says a girl could cut her hair and make it look natural well the Bible in brother bandam clearly teaches against cutting your hair at all and says it's the same thing with nails law it's not because the Bible clearly says not to cut your hair and brother brandham clearly said not to cut your hair yeah depends on how legalistic you want to be because you could say for instance you should not buy anything expensive you should live on the bare minimum across the entire board and send all of the expensive things to uh the mission field to help people pay for food food or build churches in in other countries you can you can get very legalistic it doesn't actually bring you closer to God because religion doesn't get you closer to God people might be really against sports but they love movies or against movies but they love sports it doesn't matter it's legalism religion and it's not a relationship with God it's a relationship with being better than someone else or having pride in doing it and Sharon Mor say she's not for cutting her hair I know that Sharon and Sharon says I'm saying that someone could cut their hair and make it look like they didn't so it's fair um no because God knows what you're doing and God knows the intent of your heart but no one's going to go to hell for putting nail polish on or cutting their hair it's the symptom or the um part of something else it's the reason why Le I just said about 10,000 different things in two minutes you're going to have to tell me what you disagreed with that I said say fake it depends I I don't know it depends on the why like why uh why are they putting stuff on the nails um um Leah shff says when someone cuts their hair you can always tell because it's so even l oh I see I don't well I don't know I'm not I don't get into semantics or like specifics to me it's just like you know do you have a relationship with God do you love what were you saying sorry I don't want to talk too much no you're good what were you saying I like I think it's funny when people say LOL I don't know I think it's funny I'm well people say law on the end of things or the beginning of things to cut the tension and not be so uh direct or indirect whatever that's why they do that [Music] well um Sharon Mo says yes but but I'm saying it's the same thing with nails someone could make their nails look natural and you can tell they're actually fake law hey David do you go to Johnny reag or no no I think I go to my dad's church brother the Tom cranes oh yeah about two and half hours dny reag or three hours depending how you drive he's wide awake and you don't want to give him meona to are you pull your down a little bit you're not Steve URL do you have do you have any questions yeah sure um Joy said please make them personal make them very personal not that much personal just trying to go through this stuff that we had talked about here hold on good night sweet [Music] child no you don't you w stay up longer oh what's you could go back and change one thing in your past what would it be um okay here's a better question that Jerick asked what is one thing about yourself that you consider a strength H I don't know if I can personally answer that I think someone else that knew me would be able to answer that no it's okay it's a podcast that's what we're here for oh something about me that I consider strength yeah [Music] um he said you love CS that's strength no not the fact that I love cows um no matter what I do in life I always try to look for God's Direction Shield says loyal to a fault okay well I'd say one thing consistent it's a great strength for you is you always assume that you're the one at fault for other people's wrongdoing did Leah say wait did Leah said that about me she said loyal to a fault and then I said another thing that I have noticed over the years is that you always blame yourself for other people's wrongdoing even when someone has clearly done wrong you still put into words exactly how you think you're the problem yeah that makes sense sorry what's do I yes sorry about that even call it a weakness I guess too what would be what's a weakness of yours a weakness other than other than being 5'2 that's not a weakness by the way you look the same as you did 11 years ago just so you know um thank you you're welcome so what would be a weakness then a weakness I always over apologize always I'm always saying sorry I actually I've actually bumped into something and said sorry to that object you realize objects don't have feelings right no do you realize that yes did is that way you're talking into your blanket doesn't have feelings either you don't know that think the blanket has feelings YouTu yeah the last one was on YouTube th views I think I don't know on YouTube no let's not um yeah sadly that definitely is a fault though um I over apologize and I over analyze I'm just too nice okay here's a question for a guy for you Faith you answer this for us okay what's a good way to approach a girl like a camp that you don't know like what do you say to her so how do you approach a a girl out a camp that you don't know what do you say to her can you just say a simple hello well what if she's with her pod what if she's with her other six or seven friends sitting all next to each other in a big gym you wait until she's alone or what do you do are you talking are you wait are you are you talking about the D no it's a simple question what's a good way to approach a girl at camp hm you don't know her what do you say to her can you just say hey nice to meet you uh where you from Levi po has a debut answer he says ask her for her home address ask her for her father's phone number straight out that'd be perfect Leah sheeld says I say invit her to join an activity or play game if you have a group that's playing that's one way um what else do you think or faith what what else what's another way what do you what's another way you'd think of a way of doing it um Joyce said another good way is to ask what church they're from sure I once I talk to an elder called by the Greg holder I don't know if anyone's heard of him on the live but um he's been married to his wife for like I think like 25 years or something and he said uh you're not a player if you if you say hi to a girl and regardless of pickup lines or anything else the only way you can figure out whether another's an actual relationship is you say hi I'm GRE hi I'm David and then see where go from there because if you talk and you try to talk to each other you might get this like you try to be open but you want to find someone where there's that actually fit and you actually can talk to each other and it actually works so I think you should keep it simple stupid and hi I'm David simple stupid ABB AB cannot speak at byc specifically I mean I was always I love sports like being on I love playing basketball I love playing volleyball um and I was doing that more than really anything else so if a guy asked me to play a game of basketball or volleyball that would be a good way to break the I yeah depends on the girl I think that a guy should do a little bit of Recon or research before he tries to talk to her find know who her friends are watch how much she talks among her friends if she talks the most she's the extrovert she doesn't she's an introvert and she has a lot to say she probably just poetry and write songs so she doesn't um just see how much she talks see how much she inter interacts how she interacts with other guys and other girls um leavea post again these comments leave it bro show pictures of her house assuming you've done your research already yeah exactly um Melissa week says introduce yourself and then ask her where she goes to church I would say Noah honestly in my perspective the best thing you can do is the 90% beforehand be out of debt have a consistent job go to church consistently have the Holy Ghost have a relationship with God with your parents with your pastor um uh have a great sense of style have your hygiene all set up be be groom be everything all perfect have good body language have good tonality have a good handshake with all of those things in order because when you shake a girl's hand you say hi I'm David what's your name within about two minutes they're going to say what does this guy smell like what does he look like what's his style how tall is he what's his what's his confidence how does he talk how does he listen how does he ask questions how does he look what is what is his what it was everything order then either you'll be her type or you won't in my opinion because if you don't have those things doesn't matter how good of a rizzler you are my little cousin has a little puppet it's a little mouse and he said hi I'm David that's perfect just do that you you'll freak her out or she'll love you what are the othering teddy bears like hi I'm David she like that it'll freak her out maybe it won't maybe she likes that stuff you know um I would be Melissa we says uh don't show picture of her house yeah sister Melissa that's probably not a good idea but in my opinion I think it's basic just say hi I'm David and see where it goes because they're gonna either they're going to want puck or they're not and and then just see where it goes and then talk about other stuff later yeah just be simple and like say hey want to go with me to uh to lunch or to get drinks at the snack stack if they say anything other than yes right away they don't like you because if a guy's talking to a girl in at a camp she's thinking I love this guy or she's thinking golly I hope this guy doesn't want me to go somewhere with him because I wasn't popular at byc what I can't answer these because I wasn't popular you can answer these if you're a human being with a basic intellect in the brain you're a person that's been approached you're a girl you you had boyfriends you've been a person you know breaking the ice is one of the scary skeps I I have a great way of breaking the ice I think say I've been a person a perfect way of breaking the ice get a get a container of ice breakers from Walmart bring him to camp and then show it to the girl and say hey want an icebreaker they're really good at breaking the ice I miss Camp what do you think of an icebreaker or like or just show it to hey what do you think of my Icebreaker I think I'm too old for boc now though okay did you hear what I just said yes I know what do you think of the ice breaker is that good I mean it's kind of cheesy but it's it's nice you know it's not hor Le Leah shefield says when you straight out say hi I'm David it makes her think you're interested in her and for some that can feel intimidating when asking to join an activity as not as forward sure exactly I score very high on the assertive scale on all the tests on all the personality tests that I take and someone can assume oh that means he's interested but I think that's very egotistical for a girl to think that every guy that says hello to her is interested in her because you you know who has to prove themselves also when you're talking to a girl the girl because just because a guy's saying hello to you doesn't mean he wants to marry you it means that she's pretty and she has a modest behavior and you're interested in getting to know her more both of you are interested in getting to know each other because just being pretty isn't enough just wearing a skirt isn't enough yeah for someone that really has their head on straight because you're both trying to see do we fit and you can both have your stuff together but you just don't fit so saying hello to someone is uh let's see says uh because 90% of the time they are interested I'd love to know where you've got that dat from um L post says you got to contextualize the approach though in this context the guy is interested and so the Assumption wouldn't be too bold I mean he's interested in what marrying her no and talking to her yes having a conversation there's nothing wrong with that I mean obviously he's somewhat interested in her because he's going up to her I mean come on interested what though like if I do it what am I interested in I'm interested in this is a girl that's pretty she's wearing clothing and I want to see if she's as interesting in her personality as she is from looks and if she's not I will walk away and if she is yeah is we'll see if you want to continue the conversation and you want to see if there's any mutual interest let's see J Mill says sometimes the girl's more assertive and she will approach the guy and she'll approach the guy and interesting enough that gets the ball rolling depends on the girl depends on the guy exactly my sister Sarah she's a social butterfly my brother-in-law Dominique he's an engineer here he's very timid in a lot of ways but he's very smart so it just it depends like Abigail in the Bible before she mared David she was the one that initiated the contact between them and then David made a move to have her to send for her and all that LE post says we can't pretend it's not a risk for a girl to have a conversation with the dude um Le sh says that means you're interested lot says more of a risk for the girl than the guy it just depends on the culture of the Social Circle at a camp though you're saying hello to each other and if there's no fit or if the girl's very closed off just say okay God bless you and find someone who maybe will be what sorry I said that's a good thing about Camp there's so many different there's so many different you know what's hard though you may find a girl that you think is real pretty and interesting and everything and then they ask them how old there they're like oh I'm 14 like oh great I have to go kill myself you know or like you were you thought I was older except I was like 13 and you were did that you look like you were 14 or something like my age but you were like seven years old I being serious you think he was 14 no you thought I was like 18 or 20 yes I did he was 13 that was awesome at 13 bro it's amazing and I was bit a bit of an idiot he was Matt because Matt was coming to camp and they were wearing the exact same shirt the exact like the exact over I was wearing his shirt because I I had lost my shirt I hadn't packed enough shirts I was actually wearing his shirt but it was just a black shirt a basic black shirt that's so funny but what about the overshirt you both had green overshirt shirt shirt oh we did actually we did we did that was that was not planned jeans and you both had the same kind of shoes oh it was because we both like don't say which don't say which character was but we both like the same TV show character that's why we both did that because we were in the same dorm yeah I'm not going to say it but yes I says Hey I was reading the book of numbers and I noticed yours wasn't in it or hey uh if you get a brief case filled with cash and the amount of money was your phone number how much would you have what if you got a brief case filled with cash and the amount of money was your phone number how much would you have what don't tell us it's it's a trick it's a okay yeah does this smell like if you found a suitcase full of cash and it was the same amount as your number what if you found a brief okay every time I've ever told a girl this they do this where they try to figure out you know the thing and this like if you find a briefcase filled with cash and the amount of money on the inside was your phone number what would the digits be oh yeah yeah does this smell like chloro that's another one come on joke fun what's up Kimberly welcome to the live how's it going hi is how's it going you know I think it's honesty and straightforwardness and it's just because you say hi to someone doesn't mean you want to marry them and you know have 8,000 children it means that you're a person talking to someone that they can't it's to have 80,000 children it's a an expression it's a form of speech you always this fun was I always what nothing I get another question on the not gonna lie I'll be right back what someone said they wrecked their car like four times in one week that's that's a lot or I almost St my four car four times in a week one week that's that's that's a lot man that is a lot let's see questions guys comments questions comments concerns guys come on see here nice this is always the fun part of the podcast where the uh you go you have a logical continuation of a thought and then it goes to basically its end and then there's the the next and the next and the next SAR question question yeah well whose fault whose fault is that audience you guys are happy to listen but do you send questions in or was what character does she relate to the most in the Bible and or what woman she Rel show David I'm David definitely another question uh Jer pray before you talk to them I woulde I think you should pray before everything you do I think one thing people get wrong about praying is they think that it's always a King James long drawn out thing like no I think you should also talk to God like a friend and just tell him what's going on ask for big things brother Bram said we we think we have such a little way of thinking about God or he said something like that um ask for big thing straight for be honest talk to him as a friend he's there listening to you all right well thank you for being on it was awesome we can do it again sometime I'm going to try to find someone for Friday Lord willing other people but but um thanks everybody for being on it was awesome do you have any other questions you wish I would have asked or anything like that Faith um I thought you were gonna I thought you were going to bring up like waiting till marriage are your thoughts on that but oh as far as that you mean like waiting to do physical stuff until the context of having babies or like holding hands um just okay this what is your opinion then on holding hands well every see don't they hold like each end of the stick no they don't want anybody to do any touching at any that's a Louisiana Camp they hold all the camps all the camps oh yeah it's a good have but okay would you let your daughter hold hands with a guy she liked how old is she let say uh 18 Jo said months what did you say joy joy said yes depends Leah shff says not a good idea in my opinion I agree Leah I mean I think it can lead to other I think it any can lead to other stuff so yeah I would say let's see L sh says if she still lives at home it's still a no regardless of age um that's I would say from personal experience it's very I know someone who is really legalistic on it you would never do physical touch with your girlfriend unless you're married and then as soon as you get a girlfriend his first girlfriend ever uh yeah she was basically sitting on top of his laap in person well you you can't I would this is this is my rule if if you have if you're sitting next to your girl regardless of what you're doing and her father walks in and you have to Quick Shuffle out of the way you shouldn't be doing it yeah you should because the danger of it is no one knows and it can escalate you're built like a car without break so if you're willing to do whatever you're doing in front of everyone with everyone sing then I think it's fine but where I do draw a line on that though I don't want people saying oh you can do whatever no I'm saying you should if you're willing to hold hands with a girl in your courting and it's out in the open for everyone to see I don't see any problem with that personally but you should goord to what your pastor says but you know sitting real close arms run other giving hugs and all that in private that's a really bad idea willing to do it in front of her father staring right at you guys then I think it's fine now if the father is like not morally right and he thinks she can kiss and all that then you as a man need to have the right moral contract because maybe the girl doesn't have parents in the message but for the most part if you were willing to have her father walk in on you and you don't have to shuffle and quick move away from the girl then I think it's fine if you have to hide it it isn't correct nope all right I I got I got to go thank you for being on it was awesome go J again at some point um just let me know him I'm sorry I did not mean to uh talk over you at some points I I'm trying um and uh yeah but thank you for being on loved everything you said was awesome um thank you for being on dating according it's just semantic at this point but thanks everybody for being on we'll see you guys next time bye